Get A Girlfriend

Let’s face it, while it is fun to play the field and be single at times, most of us are happiest when we are in a steady and secure relationship with someone. That means having a girl we can count on for affection, intimacy, and good times – in other words, a girlfriend.

But getting a girlfriend isn’t always easy and a big part of it is shoring up and solidifying your inner gain.

In my opinion, there are three traits that are essentially the key to your inner game. By adhering to these traits, which I call the “Three S’s” you will cultivate power and charisma and have your choice of any girl you want.

Here’s a look at each the Three S’s – self-confidence, self-discipline, and a sense of humor, and how important they are if you want to get a girlfriend.

Get A Girlfriend Trait #1 Self-Confidence

Truly, this is the key to everything. I’ve said this before and it bears repeating: “The way you feel about yourself will ultimately determine the quality of your relationships.”

Your self-confidence is the face you present to the world and your security about your projection of yourself. When you are self-confident, you like yourself, you’re not afraid of the future, your attitude is positive, you know where you are going or at least have plans for that path, and you are independent. You are not clingy or needy.

It’s about being proud to be you. If you need help fixing this, I suggest you work on this first before you even consider entering into a relationship. Self-confidence actually has a cycle. It begins with you taking action that leads to results that leads to confidence that leads to you taking action and so on. See how that works?

So, work on this first.

Get A Girlfriend Trait #2 Self-discipline

Guess what? In order to have self-confidence, you probably are going to need some self-discipline. These two traits go hand in hand.

The first tenant of self-discipline is you have to be willing to do whatever it takes to reach your goal and get what you want. For instance, if you want to lose weight or get in shape, you need concrete actions to achieve that goal. That willingness might mean giving up beer every weekend. Whatever it is you need to be willing to sacrifice to get what you want.

The second part of self-discipline is persistence. You have to be willing to make that effort for the long haul, however long it takes to achieve what you want and see your efforts pay off.

Here is something I’ve said before that will help you persevere through the hard times if you remember it: “If you consistently do the things that winners do, you will get the same results.”

Get A Girlfriend Trait #3 Sense of Humor

If you can make a woman laugh, you are more than halfway there. You cannot only get a girlfriend, but can just get laid based on this trait alone. Everyone wants to laugh and if you can make someone laugh, they almost always shed their defenses.

This doesn’t mean you have to be this terribly witty guy to have a sense of humor. Part of having a sense of humor is also the ability to laugh at yourself.

A great way to make a girl laugh is through teasing which also shows you are self confident if you can gently tease a girl. It also shows you are fun and don’t take everything so seriously. It makes you charismatic and people will want to be around you.

If you work on your self-confidence, self-discipline, and practice the art of gentle teasing, you are doing exactly what you need to do to get a girlfriend. Good luck my friend.