Confident With Women

Men who want to be confident with women should know ahead of time some of the most common tests women will pull to assert themselves and place the guy in a supplicating position. In other words, they will pull this crap to turn you into a wimp.

Too many guys comply because they don’t want to make the woman mad. It is crucial to remember that if she figures out she can manipulate you, she will lose respect for you. Here are three common tests and how you should react:

Confident With Women Tests:

1. Changing-the-rules Test. I’m sure you’ve seen this before, I’m sure. At first, this test seems harmless. It is one of those tests that sort of sneaks up on you. But what it actually is ends up being a calculated subtle attempt for the woman to exert influence over you. What happens is the woman makes changes for her own convenience as a power play.

For instance, you have set a time to meet at a club to catch a friend’s band play at 9 p.m. Around 8:45 p.m., she calls and says you should meet at her place instead and you can go together to the show. This change in plans will probably make you late.

The way to handle this is to assert yourself by refusing politely and saying that you told the band you’d be there right at 9 p.m. If you meet her first at her place, then you won’t get a good seat at the show. Say you’ll go ahead and meet her at the club and you’ll save a spot up front for her.

2. Disrespect Test. This test is sometimes subtle and other times very obvious. The fact remains that disrespect from anybody is intolerable. You should always call somebody on it. If you don’t want to come off as a jerk, you can use a sense of humor to call them on it. Open disrespect should be directly confronted by saying something such as “Put downs are not attractive. I expect respect from you and you’ll get the same from me.”

More subtle disrespect might involve her saying She might say something like you must be scared of moguls since you haven’t been skiing very long. You can tell by her voice it wasn’t teasing in a good-natured way. Your response should be to pause for a minute, give a little smirk, and then say calmly, “What does that mean exactly?”

You are giving her a gentle reminder that she might have misspoken and she can still save face. Often at this point, the woman will apologize, but sometimes people dig themselves a deeper hole by insulting you more. In this case, she might be provoking an argument. Instead of engaging, fight back with a sense of humor.

“Wow, you must be an Olympic trained skier. Do you give lessons?” Say it with a smile.

3. Chronically Tardy Test.

1. If you are attending an event together, tell her to be there thirty minutes before you want her there. If you get caught doing this, tell her you must have read the time it started wrong. Or arrange for her to meet you at your house earlier than you really need her to be there to get to the event on time. That way you can be busy doing your own thing at home instead of being inconvenienced by her.

2. If she continues to be late, such as twenty minutes late every time you meet, be firm about your expectations. Tell her that you are going to be at the event at 7 p.m. on the dot and she can leave your house with you at 6:30 p.m. or if she’s not there by 6:30 p.m., you’ll leave and plan on meeting her there.

If you memorize these ahead of time, you are well on your way to becoming confident with women and holding on to your self-respect.