Confident With Women

The best way to be confident with women is by taking action. Sitting home on your couch is not going to help you one bit. If you want to be successful, you’re going to have to put out some effort; maybe a lot of effort. But it will be worth it in the long run.

The main goal in approaching women is to get a phone number from them so you can hook up later. And here’s a little secret: If she is interested in you, she’ll give you her number. It’s pretty basic stuff. That is the test. If she doesn’t want to give you her number, then game over, my friend. And don’t fall for the avoidance technique of giving her your number. Only give her yours if she gives you her number first. If she doesn’t, your sunk and taking your number was just a way to get rid of you.

So, let’s look at how you can make this happen. I like to tell guys to treat it like they are embarking on a mission for the Green Berets:

Confident With Women Steps:

1. Review your mission goal. In this case, it’s to get her phone number. It’s not to take her home for the night. Your goal isn’t to get her out on the dance floor. The point is not to impress her friends. Keep your eye on the ball. Getting her number is your one and only goal right now.

2. Observe terrain. Sit back and look at the best way to approach her. Do half a dozen guys surround her? Tailor your approach in that way. Is she looking with longing at the dance floor, maybe use that in your approach. Does she have friends around her that look friendly and seem open to someone approaching the group. Do a quick analysis before you approach. But keep your observation under one minute. More time than that and you’re little voice of self-doubt will creep in and tell you all the ways you might blow it. Don’t give him a chance to open his big mouth. But have a quick game plan before you approach.

3. Isolate target. Here’s where your game plan comes into effect. If she is the one surrounded by half a dozen guys, gently touch her elbow and say “excuse me” do you have a second. Make her lean in to hear you and pull her gently out of the group, but not too far away.

Same approach if she’s on the dance floor or standing in a group of girls. Get her attention away from everyone else and focusing on you.

4. Approach and Engage. Use whatever strategy you have decided on beforehand. You might keep it simple and say you saw her across the room and had to come introduce yourself. You might say, her turquoise cashmere scarf caught your eye and you want to pick one up like it for your little sister. Whatever your approach is, use it to capture her interest.

5. Get Number. Usually the easiest way to do this is say you have to run but want her number in case you want to continue your conversation at a later time.