Pick Up Girls

The ability to pick up girls takes both a little bit of luck and a little bit of “pluck.” What do I mean by that? I mean it takes a little daring, a little guts, a little stepping outside your comfort zone.

If you want learn how to pick up girls, you are going to have to do some things that are not necessarily easy and may not be second nature for you. That’s why it is important for you to develop a skill I call “Fake it ’til you make it.”

What this means is an attitude that you at first, put on, like an actor playing a role. You need to pretend to feel confident, attractive, and sexy and all the ways you wish you felt naturally, but maybe don’t (right this second).

Here’s the great thing about it – once you DO IT enough it does become natural. It just takes time and practice.
There is a little experiment I have done dozens of times and which I encourage other guys to try out. I’ve used it in many different contexts, including when I pick up girls, but also when I want to get into a concert or club where there’s a line. For instance, when there’s a long line, I will often throw on an attitude that I belong there and I actually deserve to be the one in the front of the line. Nine times out of ten, the bouncer will lift the rope and let me slip in. All because of my attitude.I’ve proven this theory over and over again. How you think about yourself affects how others perceive you. And if you want to be successful with girls, you better think you are an Alpha Male who exudes self-confidence.

(Note also: Bouncers can pick up on the “douchebag” vibe, which is why so many guys are ‘denied’ at the rope.)

Now here’s where it works if you want to pick up girls. What I like to do is walk into a club or bar feeling a little bit self-conscious and shy and sort of down. I’ll walk through a crowd and really nobody – no women especially – will even look my way. Then I leave.

Maybe after about a half hour, I’ll walk in again. This time I have on my alpha male attitude. I am a guy who is fun, confident, and ready to have a great time. This time when I walk through the crowd, eyes follow me and women turn to me. I have no problem this time around meeting women.

One of the things you can do to get this “Alpha Walk” down is to straighten up your back, throw your shoulders back, tilt your chin up higher than normal, narrow your eyes a bit, and wear a shit-eating-grin that says, “Yeah, baby…” Trust me, that will improve your vibe about 200%.

The inner game part really revolves around your self-talk. It means telling yourself that you are fun, you are confident and that any girl would be lucky to hang out with a guy like you. Thoughts have power and in this instance, really affect what others think of you.

So, the next time you’re out, work on the attitude. One of the best things you can do is to find your own personal chant or mantra that you can repeat in your head that motivates you. One of mine is: “I’m the man…”

Work on the thoughts you have about yourself and your night and see if it makes a difference. If you practice this and “fake it until you make it,” you will see your ability to pick up girls increase dramatically.