Approaching Women

We men sometimes think we are so sneaky when we are approaching women, coming up all casual and acting like we just happen to open our mouths right then and talk to them. Well, of course women know you are trying to pick them up, so don’t bother disguising it, hiding it, or being ashamed of it.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to pick up a woman. In fact, the majority of women, the vast majority, like to have a guy try to pick them up. I’m not saying that the majority will be interested in you, but that women like it.

Who wouldn’t? As long as the guy isn’t a jerk when talking with women, then the attempted pick up is always flattering to a woman.

So right this minute, I want you to let go of any shame that trying to pick up women is something bad. Men and women are naturally attracted to one another and that’s how the human species keeps itself from becoming extinct. It’s natural and normal.

The key is to not look like a show-off pick up artist with gold chains and fancy clothes flashing his mega-watt smile to every girl in town.

Instead, your key in meeting women should be to figure out a technique that suits your own personality. Find something that is comfortable, not contrived. Use some opening line that is going to steer you in the direction you are aiming for, which should be getting her phone number. If you find the right one for you, it will be effective on a regular basis.

I have a suggestion for you. This is, in my opinion, the most effective method to approach a woman. Ready? Okay.

Approaching Women Techniques:

1. Say “Hi.”

Yep. That’s it.

Don’t whip out your clever lines, magic tricks, or funny jokes. Just say hi. This will get you past the number one hurdle for approaching women. You will be sitting pretty on the bar stool next to her, while other men are trying to figure out exactly what you said that helped you strike up a conversation.

In my experience, more than 90 percent of women will give you a smile and a chance if you just walk up and say “Hi.”

2. Of course, you have to be able to continue the conversation from then on out, but if you have a plan, approaching women in this way is very effective.

Think about it ahead of time and figure out a subject to introduce and talk to any girl about. For instance, you can bring up some current event or ask her about the plot of some popular movie. Whatever you find interesting is a good subject to broach. Here’s a super easy one. Ask her what she thinks about men approaching women by just having the guts to walk up and say hi.

3. If you are trying to think of something interesting to use after “Hi” I will say that in my personal experience, topics that have some drama or luridness or sensationalism tend to ignite interesting discussions.

One last thought: the fact that you have the guts to walk up and say “Hi” automatically makes you more of a turn on to women than the guys who don’t have the guts to do so. You’re already that much ahead of the game, so go for it. These are some techniques in approaching women.

~Carlos Xuma~