Talk To Women

Every man on the planet most likely at one time in his dating life will get a free pass without collecting $200 to the Friend Zone. It happens to the best of us. We start off not knowing how to talk to women.

Is there a man alive who hasn’t heard these fateful words: “Let’s just be friends.”

And every man who hears this phrase immediately thinks, “Crap. What went wrong?”

Well when you are learning how to stay out of the Friend Zone, it helps to learn what not to say as much as what you should be saying. And part of that is looking at what type of language – and behavior – puts you squarely in the friend zone.

Here are a few trouble spots to avoid when you first get to know women:

Talk to Women Tips:

1. Don’t come on too strong. And just as important as not coming on too strong – don’t forget to actively demonstrate the three S’s (self-confidence, self-discipline, and a sense of humor).

2. This is the opposite of No 1 – the man who doesn’t come on strong enough and demonstrates little or none of the three S’s. It is not going to attract her when you don’t have enough self-confidence to act on your desire for her. She will eventually play the friend card in this instance.

3. Waiting too long to spark attraction. If you don’t strike up some initial chemistry and light her passion, she’ll lose interest.

4. There are two good reasons why she’ll want to move you and keep you in the Friend Zone. So, try to avoid both of these.

• She thinks you’re too safe
• She thinks you’re too scary.Both of these – being too safe or two scary will stop her from feeling trust and attraction toward you.

It’s like getting disqualified from the game before the first inning.

5. Have a very select and small number of female friends and make sure the ratio of women you are friends with is never higher than the ratio of women you see sexually or romantically.

Now this article is not to say that men and women can’t be friends. You can be friends with a woman, but only have a few women who fit into this category. Here’s why:

* Too many female friends confuse your gender identity. Stay out of a woman’s clique. Hold tight to your masculinity and don’t start identifying with females or worry too much about being a nice guy.

* Too many female friends lessens the sexual tension you need to feel around women that propels you to make a move. Don’t become so comfortable with women that you lose that spark.

If, despite all your efforts to closely follow this advice you still get stuck in the Friend Zone, then back out of it and go make other friends. Practice makes perfect and sometimes you have to learn from doing what’s wrong to end up doing what’s right. These are some tips on how to talk to women.

~Carlos Xuma~