Attracting Women

One of the biggest mistakes men make when attracting women is listening to women who say they want a nice guy. The second biggest mistake is becoming a nice guy and thinking that this is the key to pulling chicks.

Usually the nice guy was groomed from childhood to be the way he is. He probably heard his mother, sisters, aunts, cousins, or other female relatives complain about men’s behavior and he made a vow to never be like those men and to not hurt women ever.

His goal was to be different. He would make friends with women and be the caring, sweet, considerate guy they all claimed to want. But of course he had a slight ulterior motive, even when he wanted to truly treat women like princesses, he still wanted them all to like him, make him their boyfriend and have sex with him. He thought this was the key to attract a women.

What he didn’t realize along the way is that his behavior turned him into a supplicating doormat. Here’s the mistake he made: He listened to what women said they wanted instead of observing what they responded to. He spends so much time making sure that the women in his life are comfortable around him, he has killed any mystery that sparks desire.

He never realized this could happen because his mother pooh-poohed his failures with women saying that one day a nice girl would come along who would appreciate him for just what a nice guy he was. She thought he had everything necessary in attracting women.

He is so worried that women will think he’s a jerk that he comes off as wimpy, indecisive and a weakling. He might even start to act in womanly ways thinking that this is what women want. It’s not. He might even buy into the whole idea that men are bad and the source of all that is wrong in this world.

The nice guy also always makes sure that nothing he says or do is threatening or bossy in any way. He’s no danger, and he tries to make that abundantly clear.

Well, here’s the kicker: you may want to make a woman feel safe, but if you make her too at ease or too comfortable you will kill desire dead. You need her to feel excited and that will spark her attraction. Nice guys are boring. Give her a little taste of the right type of danger and she’ll follow you around like a puppy.

Act like a woman and she will run away as fast as she can.

So here’s the reality guys: Don’t listen to what women say they want. They don’t want a man who is their BFF. They want a man. The secret to charm a women is just that simple.

Sure, you can share your feelings, but not all of them and not all the time. You may feel misled by women and that’s too bad. Get over it and move on. What? You say it’s not fair that they tell you they want one thing and then respond to another. Well, too bad. I’m going to let you in on a little secret that will make your forays into the dating world go much smoother: dating, just like life, isn’t fair.

The sooner you accept that and move on, the better off you’ll be and the more successful in attracting women. And the happier the women in your life will be, too.